Mindfulness is power. It gives you the opportunity to see the world for what is really happening. Your experience in the moment. Not distorted by the content of your thoughts, imagination or perceptions. But to be aware of the now without judgement. Taking everything in for what it is.
Why does this help you? You get distance from your thoughts. Most people get so wrapped up in their thinking that it colors their reality. Similar to wearing rose colored glassed, or a great pair of sunglasses called BluBlockers. When we think up positive thoughts we color our experience and we don’t see things for what they really are.
How does that hurt you? If you are in a bad relationship for example. You might try to be positive or optimistic about everything, thus not seeing reality and coloring your real event with positive mental content and you’d make many bad decisions for yourself. In this case, you’d not see the clear signs and you’d keep yourself in a unhealthy relationship.
When you don’t separate the content of your mind to actual reality and learn to observe it, you are not in awareness nor mindfulness, and often you aren’t accepting reality for what it really is, but are practicing a self-limiting and destructive avoidance strategy. Trying to avoid something now that only leads to more pain latter on.
So what is the solution? Mindfulness. When you learn to be mindful of your thinking, emotions, body, sights, sounds, the world around you. To really be present. To see your thoughts pass but not get caught up in them. Not seeing the world from them, but rather looking at them. We have a new perspective. We are here in the present. Right now. We can be flexible in our mental mind and this frees us to make better decisions not based on false content.
When we become mindful our lives change in many ways.
How to you learn to be mindful? I know it can seem difficult especially if you’ve lived most of your life in your head. If you walk down the street really not here now, but in your thoughts and worries. If you read the words on this page, but your mind is carrying you away somewhere else. But here’s the good news, you can learn this no matter what. Mindfulness is like a muscle and it will get stronger with regular practice. Soon it can be your new enhanced better way of life that will benefit all areas of your life and allow you to make clearer decisions based on reality too. The results of that are life changing. People from all walks of life and issues have gotten amazing results. I read about people learning to overcome anxiety issues and even serious conditions like how to cure schizophrenia. That’s pretty outstanding.
The fact is, most people today are often wrapped up in their thinking. So you’re not alone. It’s probably one of the main causes of human suffering and pain. Mindfulness is about ‘looking at’, or observing your experiences and allowing them to fully be.
Instead of trying to get rid of thoughts and feelings, you realize, that they will always exist and come and go as that’s the nature of the mind. When we fight our thought and feelings, we are getting wrapped up in our mental content again and not really ‘here’, in the present moment.
What’s worse, is that this fixation on getting rid of the thinking and feelings only makes them more intense! So it doesn’t work. When you learn to just be mindful of your experiences in an observational way and accept them, truly all of them, they’ll have the room to come and go and you’ll be fully alive as a person able to experience all your human experiences.
The nature of the mind is to be a content machine. It will always come up with random thoughts, memories, worries, and often engage in problem solving. Problem solving is great and should be used when achieving goals or goal setting. We when we learn to look at our thinking and not get wrapped up in the content machines content, we’re free to act in a way that will better our lives and give us freedom to enjoy higher life satisfaction now and later.
Most people are afraid to allow and accept all their internal experiences, but this is paradoxically the high road to full human life satisfaction.